Well, I almost made it through the 7 posts in 7 days challenge. I didn't get a post published yesterday. The reason being that I traveled across the country with my family. Since we didn't need to be at the airport until 2:00 in the afternoon, I was going to try to blog early in the day, but since I spent the week writing blog posts every day instead of getting ready for my trip, I had a lot to do before getting on the plane.
Traveling with children has me thinking about a certain idea that seems to be growing in our culture. The idea is this: Life is an adventure and therefore to live fully, it's better to not waste one's youth having children because they'll only tie you down. It's better to get all your adventures in before having children and then when one is ready to live a boring life filled with mundane-ness and drudgery, have kids.
Although having children is common; most everyone does it, this simple fact can betray how epic parenthood really is. It looks like diaper changes, cleaning up after children, and making meals, but on the emotional level, it is truly massive. I've written before about how motherhood changed me. I am a completely different person since becoming a mother (and a much happier person). In parenthood, the dragons you face are yourself; you are called upon to rid yourself of selfishness, to put others first, to go out of your comfort zone to do things you never knew you could do. It is an interior adventure. I think any life lived well, (whether one is a parent or not) has those elements. In fact, perhaps the question shouldn't be whether to have children or not, but this:
In what way will you give yourself away?
When it comes to adventures that will secure bragging rights, parenthood will not in and of itself accomplish that, but don't be fooled, it is no less of an adventure than storms at sea, visiting another culture and country, or climbing a high mountain. Don't get me wrong though, the interior adventures that parenthood can afford doesn't mean that one can't have the other kinds of adventures as well. Just check out Family on Bikes!
"[One] cannot fully find himself except through a sincere gift of himself." - Gaudium et Spes